[Guest]

One night I was in my bed and just thought of random things. I eventually started thinking about how my future wife would be like. First I told myself she would have to look nice, but then I thought hmm that seems pretty mean to have looks as one thing I want in a partner. And then I thought would a girl be okay with being with a guy who likes her but thinks she's ugly?

So what is the answer girls and what are your opinions guys?

[peace*out]

in my opinion if it's really going to be "true love" or whateves, the guy has to think she's beautiful. not necesarily model type, but he shouldnt just focus on her looks. if he thinks shes ugly, it wont work out.

just my opinion, as of right now

[Guest]

Interesting I asked a girl in my class and she said she would not mind

[peace*out]

above is my opinion. just me. everyone thinks differently.

[Quag]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

If you like someone you cannot find them repugnant. That is like in a general sense. To be more specific to the topic, if you love someone regardless of what they look like you will find them beautiful.

Having said that sleeping with someone does not imply love and despite what some think it doesn’t even imply lust.

So my reply to you young scientist is that if you get married, it should be to the most beautiful woman in the world. The beauty will not be from the shape of her body or the perfection of her hair etc., but from the brilliance of her soul. So don’t think you are shallow for saying you want your wife to be beautiful. If she isn’t than she isn’t the one you should be marrying.

I know I married the most beautiful woman in the world and if others can’t see that it really isn’t my problem if they are blind.

(But really she is beautiful)

[peace*out]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

If you like someone you cannot find them repugnant. That is like in a general sense. To be more specific to the topic, if you love someone regardless of what they look like you will find them beautiful.

Having said that sleeping with someone does not imply love and despite what some think it doesn’t even imply lust.

So my reply to you young scientist is that if you get married, it should be to the most beautiful woman in the world. The beauty will not be from the shape of her body or the perfection of her hair etc., but from the brilliance of her soul. So don’t think you are shallow for saying you want your wife to be beautiful. If she isn’t than she isn’t the one you should be marrying.

I know I married the most beautiful woman in the world and if others can’t see that it really isn’t my problem if they are blind.

(But really she is beautiful)

^^this is a better version of what i was trying to say

[Guest]

wow that was deep and sweet

[EDM]

Firstly....there's NO WAY a person will like you and find you ugly.....

Second...

Technically the same can be asked about guys:

Would you (a guy) be okay with being with a girl who likes you but thinks you are ugly?

Same answer, YS.....

I feel (in response to the main...) that a person will be beautiful if they have a beautiful soul (as the brilliant Quag has put it...).

Moreover, there's no such thing as an 'ugly' person, physically. It's what we come up with, as, pardon me, 'morons'...

Take 2 women: One is very pretty, but has an ugly attitude....the other is not as pretty, but is kind, humble, etc. Honestly, who would you choose?

If you had to ask me the same question (about guys), i'd definitely choose the good guy. No matter what, If a guy is sweet, fun, awesome person at heart....then who needs a model-like guy? The good guy will be the 'greatest and most handsome guy in the universe' in my eyes

Same with us girls. If you want the right girl, go for the sweet, loving type....[not the "I'm-so-perfect-and-you-are-a-sucker-who-will-do-whatever-I-want" kind of person]....She will end up being the most beautiful woman in the world...

Edited January 31, 2011 by EDM

[Guest]

The guy/girl likes you although he/she thinks you're ugly.

The guy/girl is with you although he/she thinks you're ugly.

Why would you knock him/her back?

Only if you think they are with you because they are a sicko.

Otherwise, they want to be with you, let them.

[Quag]

The guy/girl likes you although he/she thinks you're ugly.

The guy/girl is with you although he/she thinks you're ugly.

Well here is the prolem if they like you they won't find you ugly. If they find you ugly they dont like you.

What he/she wants is sex, that is all. They would obviously prefer it with someone else that wasnt "ugly", but something is better than nothing. Now if all you want is sex then there is no problem. If you are sure that is all you want, most people tend to fool themselves on this point. If you want more, than you are just asking for that huge barn door of pain to go smashing at your heart like a blacksmiths hammer on an anvil.

It is up to individuals to decide. I'm not a prude and don't care if people have sex with each other for any reason at all. However having lived long enough and experienced enough, I can state emphatically that sex with someone you love is infinitely better than with someone you care nothing for.

[Guest]

Don't you think that you could fool yourself into thinking that someone is nice and kind even though they are not just beacuase they are good looking, so what I am trying to ask is if you think they are beautiful and therefore a good person how do you truely find out if you are right about their personality?

[EDM]

There's no way to tell a person's personality at first glance....plastic surgery proved that (). It's a person's body language, how they treat others, how they speak, behave, etc. that truly show them for who/what they are.....

Oh....and BD helps, too....

[Quag]

EDM is right... sorta...

There are hints. If someone is smiling all the time chances are they are a happy person. If they are frowning chances are they aren't. It’s not 100% but it helps. Could be the smiling person has just got some great news. I’ll use an evil example: they just learned that someone they hate died. Opposite: could be true they have just learned that their ex just showed up with the “other” woman/man.

Fact is we all judge a book by its cover but that cover usually gives a hint as to what the book is about.

There are some people you will just get along with as soon as you meet them and other that you will hate on fist sight. There are many reasons for this, looks/smells/voice etc all connected with your own personal past experiences/memories/dreams/aspirations etc.

But of course you can be fooled that is how con artists exist. We are all human and therefore not infallible.