OP says "I am thinking about one of my cards." That is an act of selection. It followed an algorithm of some sort. Flipping a coin, shuffling them face down then turning one over, taking the one closest to her as I tossed them across the table, saying eenie meenie money mo ... not thinking at all, praying, in some way, deterministic or not, she made a selection. And, inescapably, how that selection was made affects the answer. So the answer as the OP stands is, "depends."
Without knowing her selection algorithm, how does one arrive at 3/7 as 'right'?
If she thought of the lower-ranking card, the probability of both cards being aces is unity: spade ace plus one of the red aces are the only possibilities. OP doesn't say the thought-of card was the lower one in rank, true; it says nothing about the thought-of card. 3/7 is 'right' if the thought-of card was the result of a coin toss. But OP does not say she tossed a coin.
I understand your basic question; I have wondered it myself. Absent any description of the reporter's algorithm, is there a least-restrictive default assumption that becomes preferable? I could, along with you, make a case for random choice (coin toss) to be that preferred, assumed algorithm. But unless that premise is understood and generally accepted among problem writers and solvers, and not just a few of us, it does leave answers uncertain.
In my boy-girl puzzle I had some fun making this point, by imposing a random selection of reporter algorithms.
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3., 4., and 5. I believe, all apply to picking either card with equal probability, along with the fact that the answers are the same for the two cards on that basis of choice: of the 56 permutations, of 14 hands the statement could have been made; and of those 14, six have two aces of any color.