This is my first post here. Hope i understand the question correctly .
To your younger self id say :
The two concepts of fairness ( neutrality ) and the 2nd Law ( decay ) are two completeley diffrent things.
The universe cares not for our perception of fairness.
One is an external force..the other an internal state. They need not meet or be grasped at the same time . It is just very satisfactory to a human brain when they do.
ok..took a crack ..let the cards fall where they may